Positions on Public Confession

This week's homework regarding confession raises some questions for me about the practice of public confession and/or confession to those NOT involved with a particular offense. I have definitely experienced situations where public confession seemed to do more harm than good. As this article from Christianity Today so aptly describes  (The Trouble With Confessing in Church):

"In a church setting, I think public confession should be prefaced with a spiritual Miranda warning: Anything you say may well be used against you. Your confession might easily become a shorthand way to brand you: 'Jeff? He's the embezzler.' 'Cindy is an alcoholic.' 'Missy got pregnant at 16.'"

I ran across this article by D.A. Delafield from Ministry: International Journal of Pastors called The If and When of Confession. Essentially, Delafield makes the case that scriptures are very clear that we need to confess to God, but less clear about confession to others. The scripture most often cited for public confession is James 5:16

"Therefore, confess  your sins to one another and pray for one another, that you may be healed." 

Delafield takes a careful look at the word for "sins" in this passage, as compared to the word "sins" in other parts of the New Testament. There appears to be a distinction between sins that only God can forgive and sins that can be forgiven by people (and God, of course):

"Wrong deeds secretly done are to be confessed to God alone. Sins that involve others are to be confessed also to those who have suffered injury." 

In the cases where sin involves others, confession to those involved can help to heal the relationship. This is what the scripture in James seems to be saying, not necessarily that every sin needs to be confessed to others.

I can't say that I necessarily agree with the examples given in Delafield's article, but I lean toward agreeing with the general message. Some caution seems prudent in confessing sins that were previously unknown to the other person. Aside from the possibility that confessions may be simply fodder for gossip, as mentioned by the Christianity Today article, it is also important to be thoughtful about the motivation of a confession. Is it to assuage personal feelings of guilt? Will it help or harm the other person? Is it to appear "spiritual?" Is there an air of arrogance or piety about the confession? How will the confession impact the community?

Having said these things, though, I find that I can also see the other "side" of the argument. It would also be possible to misuse the above information as a defense for hiding sin, and, unfortunately, many sins that do not directly involve others still have an indirect impact on families and communities. In his book, Life Together, Dietrich Bonhoeffer states:

"...there is no sin in thought, word, or deed, no mater how personal or secret, that does not harm the whole community. When the cause of an illness gets into one's body, whether or not anyone knows where it comes from, or in what member it has lodged, the body is made ill."

When stated this way, it seems that public confession of sin is both necessary and beneficial. Families and communities are often harmed by secrets and sins that didn't seem necessary to reveal or confess. I find myself remembering conversations about family secrets from earlier this year when we were discussing Emotionally Healthy Spirituality.

I do not claim to have answers, but I think that studying the questions and the range of interpretations can help guide us as we make decisions for ourselves and seek to practice faith together.

Confession & Repentence

In Week 2, Day 3 of Living Beyond Yourself, Beth Moore discusses some elements of confession and repentance. Interestingly, as we've found so many times before in our group, the discoveries and practices happening in the field of human psychology closely mirror what we already know is healthy from our studies and practices of scripture. Moore suggests that confession and repentance involve being specific about whatever it is we're confessing, experiencing and expressing sorrow, and turning from our behavior.

I believe it was Tesha, who pointed out how very similar this is to some recent articles that have been circulating the internet about how to apologize. (For example, A Better Way to Say Sorry.)

Is it so strange that God, who created us, knows our need to come clean, examine our actions, and take active steps to do something different? Isn't it amazing?